Watch this video for a short intro on collar stays. If you wear dress shirts, you really should at least consider getting a pair, we’ve got very inexpensive magnetic collar stays that are rockin. Watch for an odd lip curl at ‘intense scrutiny’ that would make body language specialists horrified.
The following post was written for the readers we have who are starting a new life in a married relationship or are already married. Starting a business with your spouse can be a very rewarding and amazing experience, but there are some rules to follow if you want to be a successful entrepreneur with your significant other.
1. If you are already in a tense and stressful relationship – Don’t Do It!
- Working together is not therapeutic and is intensely stressful.
2. Know who will be in charge.
- Someone will ultimately need to make final decisions. So having this clarified at the beginning will help eliminate confusion later.
3. Write down your responsibilities.
- Make sure they are clear and separate.
4. Set a schedule and stick to it.
- Keep each other accountable for the time at work each day.
5. Separate your personal life and feelings during business hours.
- Keeping boundaries will help erase any gray areas between the business and the home.
6. Communicate with each other.
- Let each other know what your goals are for each day.
7. Make sure your goals and visions for the business line up.
- Like in marriage, before starting the business know where you want to go and that you have the same goals.
8. Get away with each other.
- Plan time out not talking about the business, but enjoying each other.
9. Get away from each other.
- Plan alone time, being together 24 hours a day can create tension.
10. Encourage each other and enjoy the journey.
- Nothing is more important than your spouse and your family, including your business.
The DISC is one of the best tools to help quickly decipher a person’s strengths and dominant areas. It usually costs a few hundred dollars, but you can take it several places for FREE. I don’t know anyone who has taken it for the first time and not learned something incredibly useful about themselves. For me it changed my life and my business, and gave me permission to be my best in what I was made for, instead of where I currently was positioned.
It has helped us with hiring as well as with finding out which responsibilities to give to current team members. Gain insight by using this test and save a lot of time and money by knowing yourself and what you are made for. Most of all, you can find much greater satisfaction in life when doing something every day that closely aligns with your personal strengths.
If your struggling with employment or position, check it out, I think you will find it one of the most worthwhile career tools you’ll see this year. We receive no kickback from Tony Robbins, it’s just the site we use that has the free DISC.
One of our website sliders states- THE GROOM MATTERS! It’s amazing that this even had to be stated, but it does, because many people forget the groom in all the hustle and bustle of the wedding planning. One of the most important things to do after you buy your suit is to get it altered. (And I’m assuming your buying a suit. If not, that is an entirely different post…) If you completely ignore the fit of your suit, you run the risk of being bathed in way too much fabric and having it recorded for posterity in print and video. Hanging or playing on your living room wall. #2 Don’t: Don’t skip getting inexpensive alterations done for the groom!
You can find wonderful people in any city or town who will happily and beautifully perform simple adjustments to your suit that will make you look like a million bucks.
And it will cost you very little.
You can also make new friends. I love the seamstresses and tailors I have worked with in the past. Expect to pay $15-75 for alterations, and we recommend considering the following:
Pants length. Your inseam should be altered unless you were extremely lucky. Make sure you bring a recent picture (even on your phone is better than nothing!) of a guy wearing a suit that fits well in case your idea of ideal length is different from your tailors. The more experienced (read ‘older’ tailors) will have amazing skills but they may not realize your not looking for a mid-90s fit. Read the first article in this series regarding yards around the ankle. Hole in the wall places are often the best.
Sleeve length. This is another big one. You want the sleeve to fall right where your wrist moves.
A lot of other alterations can be done, or skipped, depending on what shape you are and what size and shape your suit is (and what sizes were available when you bought the suit). If you bought a classic business suit for your wedding (I don’t recommend this, but it can work depending on what you choose), consider getting the wrist and arm, leg and ankle tapered slightly to be more modern and fitting. Also business suits tend to be more business like– longer jacket length and loose legs.
I hope this quick overview of alterations gives you a place to start. Would love to see your comments on what you’ve experienced or are wondering about!
1. Wool scarf. Take basic jeans and sweater, or even a basic work suit and throw on a worsted wool fisherman’s knit scarf. Instant texture, warmth as well as upping the interest factor x10! See this mens 100% wool scarf, made in USA. It looks especially awesome with boots and jeans.
2. Tweed….well, anything. Add some oomph to your look with a tweed cap, tweed blazer, or my favorite, a tweed tie. The most affordable of these options is definitely the tweed cap, and newsboys are back for all ages this fall. Check out this look.
3. Tie bars. If you suit up for work, this is an often overlooked asset that can set you apart as the sharpest dresser in the room. Check out this steampunk piece that was in Italian Vogue– great watch movement piece with a lot of character, and not just for steampunkers. On a low key navy suit with silk tie, it really stands out and adds quick texture. We’ve also got these palladium plated circuit board tie bars if your especially ‘interesting’. Though they are covered in a smooth shellac, the interest and texture shines through. These are both legacy pieces, and actually aren’t too cheap.
4. Grab a vintage blazer. We mentioned tweed blazers above, and this is a really key piece to a textured and character filled fall. You can layer in a plaid shirt, sweater vest, tie or not, and a vintage tweed blazer looks exceptional. There are a lot of subtle features in throwback suiting that have a lot of interest– spread button cuffs, longer vents, extra wide lapels (or extra thin), all depending on the era.
5. Cork. This is a new addition to our accessories line up this fall for a couple of reasons. It’s sustainable, and we found an amazing manufacturer that produces canvas, cork and leather bags right out of San Francisco! Weekender or catch all bag, dopp bag (some oldies call it ditty), as well as a cork wallet option can really add some complexity to your wardrobe and routine.
These cuff links are absolutely amazing. After being featured in Italian Vogue Bridal Edition, we knew we had to offer them to our customers.
These genuine vintage watch movement cuff links have stunning intricacy and are posted on Sterling silver plated base. We also offer them on tie bars or tie pins for a great matching choice.
These are a fantastic gift even for the most hard-to-buy-for, and make a great groom or groomsmen gift.
These beauties come in a lovely velvet hardshell case for safekeeping.